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Standing Up for Yourself
 by Pete Wiley

Standing up for yourself—When to Put Up the Shield

“What did you just say?”

There are times when someone says or does something that crosses the line. You’re angry, and you feel significantly wronged. It’s common in this scenario to either have an emotional knee-jerk reaction or to push your emotions inside and continue as if nothing happened. After the event and your initial reaction have passed, it’s important to reflect rationally on the incident, assess your reaction, and consider how you’ll interact with the person going forward. It’s all emotional, and the social dynamic can be complicated, but ultimately, you have to decide when to stand up for yourself and what form that will take.

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Motivation and Energy
 by Pete Wiley

Motivation and Energy—How to Keep the Ball Rolling

Why is it that sometimes you can keep buzzing along—checking your boxes and making progress—and sometimes you just… can’t. We all have periods when the motivation isn’t there—when we can’t get off the dime and get going. This is fine as long as you are mindful of the dynamic. When you’re not feeling it, it’s essential to maintain self-awareness and know why you’re lacking in motivation. We all need downtime, but if your listlessness is due to something that’s within your control, it can be helpful to identify those factors and find a way to correct or adjust them. Motivation is one of the most important elements in a meaningful life. If yours is waning, it’s necessary to know why.

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How Friendships Evolve
 by Pete Wiley

The Unfolding of Friendships—How Relationships Evolve Over Time

When you make close friends, especially when you’re young, they click easily and are fun and carefree. There may be drama, and some friendships won’t last, but they aren’t hard work for the most part. But as you gain years and experience, you also gain insights and opinions and become more set in your ways. You may disagree more with old friends or find certain characteristics irritating or puerile. You may even question why you’re still friends. But I’ve got news for you: people may feel that way about you, too. Long-term friendships are valuable and rare; don’t dismiss any long-term relationship as not worth the effort without serious reflection and thought.

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Too much of a good thing
 by Pete Wiley

Too Much of a Good Thing—Keeping Balance in Your Life

Everyone has elements of their lives that they love. It might be their work, a hobby, or building wealth. But anything you are passionate about can be diminished if you do little else. Balance in life is essential. Key activities, such as health, self-care, or relationships, might be ignored if you become monomaniacal about a single activity. Like any other element of your life, the ones you love must be planned and carried out intentionally. The more you make time for activities that make you more grounded and healthy, the better you’ll be able to engage in what you love.

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Saving Your Energy
 by Pete Wiley

Saving Your Energy for the Good in Your Life

Your time and energy are precious. How you spend them is key to how you live and feel, and what you achieve. There will always be times when you are angry or hurt and feel the need to expend energy to try to “fix” those situations. But you may be feeding a part of your life that you’d rather offload. You’re acknowledging a person, problem, or challenge in a way that may give it legitimacy rather than denying it as part of your life. Conditions feed on energy, including negative energy. When you expend energy, you feed the beast instead of starving it until it goes away.  

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