We have a small house, and it doesn’t take much to make it look and feel cluttered.
Don’t get me wrong, I love our small house. It’s cozy. It has plenty of space to work and live. It promotes “togetherness” as a family. But, as I tell my overly generous mother-in-law, our house is “full.” It has “exceeded capacity.” It is, in a word, cluttered.
It’s not that we’re disorganized. It’s not that we have a bunch of stuff lying around that needs to be put away. Everything is away, there’s just too much of it.
Every once in a while, a voice inside me says, “I’m done.” I’ve used up all my energy and concentration, and I need some downtime. I need to spend some quality time doing nothing.
All of us need downtime—some need less than others and some seem to need way more than others. Why is this? One of the reasons might be what people do when they’re doing nothing. Some people waste their time when they’re wasting their time; and end up needing more time to waste (stay with me here).
Every day I look at my calendar to see what meetings I have and begin to psych myself up for them. I look at the people that are going to those meetings and what I need to accomplish. I think about what kind of people I will be meeting. It’s not that I don’t like people—I do—it’s just that when I interact with people it takes significant energy, and I have to bring that energy to the surface. It’s like warming up a diesel engine.
I’ve always been interested in experiences that make people explore and face their ultimate limits.
It might just be curiosity, but it might be something deeper. The opportunity to explore our ultimate limits might tell us something about ourselves that we would not have known otherwise. It gets to the core of who we are on a physical, mental, and emotional level.
An intimate knowledge of our responses to more extreme hardships and challenges would help us understand our responses to all of our challenges. It would certainly give us a boost in confidence as we face our everyday challenges.